Daring To Be Totally Yourself

“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way,
ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.” 
~Deepak Chopra

What does it really take to live from your authentic self? What does it take to dare to be who you are?

There’s nothing more attractive and inviting than someone who is confident in who they are and what they believe in.

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There’s an elegance and ease about them. Better yet, when you can live that way, you can share that enthusiasm with others and life is more fulfilling.

Contrary to that is someone who doesn’t know him or herself well, someone who depends on other people’s opinions for validity, or self-worth and their identity. These types of people are unsure of their values and purpose.

If you have no idea who you are, it can be confusing and painful. With lots of judgment, denial, hiding-out and defending of yourself.

Can you identify with these situations?

The biggest problems arise when you look outside of yourself for gratification, praise, and identity. Everyone wants to feel good about themselves, and have deep, meaningful relationships and a purposeful life.

However, if you don’t really know yourself, it’s impossible for others to know you, or for you to know your true purpose.

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Letting Go Of The Past

I can totally relate to both of these scenarios. For most of my early life (birth-30) I was a very shy, quiet, young woman who did not speak up and sat in the back of the room in school. I was terrified of being seen and having to open up to and speak about myself. This was distressing for me when I was accepted to nursing school and was constantly being required to speak up and be seen.

I had no idea who I was. I was like a chameleon. I could change and adapt to whatever situation I found myself in. Being a quick adapter, was a survival skill that served me well to deal with the chaos and trauma of living in a home with an alcoholic father who died when I was 7 and a depressed mother.

Brene’ Brown author of Rising Strong says “when we deny our stories, they define us.” When we own our stories, we get to write a brave new ending. 

Finally, after years of sadness, depression, and self-denial of who I was. I decided to change my life and own my story. It took courage, faith and deep soul work to believe in myself and to choose to live the life God had given me and the life I really wanted to live. A life with purpose and meaning.

I had to be willing to let go of the woman I was to be the woman I was becoming.

The major key to self-love and joy is to know yourself at your deepest level of being and to remember your true spiritual, multidimensional nature.

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This leads to a certain steadiness in life. Unlike being dependent on outside influences, you’re guided by your inner truth. This gives you strength for all that life has to offer. You’re able to be present, live with passion, and more fully experience the whole spectrum of emotions, from great joy to great sorrow, and still remain at peace.

Are you ready to be who you really are?

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Here are four ways to honor yourself and embrace the power of being you. As you start to adopt them in your life, notice how your view of yourself and the world become brighter, more meaningful, and more mystical.

  1. Deepen your spiritual practice. A spiritual practice means taking time to look inward and experience your true nature. Examples of spiritual practices are meditation, prayer, yoga, being in nature, doing something you love, engaging in an art project, sitting in silence, or even immersing yourself in sound. It can be anything that inspires you to be, observe love, and feel.
  2. Be willing to dig deep into your beliefs and self-sabotaging behavior and emotions. Become aware of the recurrent thoughts about which you often think. Note how often you rehash a conversation that took place weeks or even years ago, or how often you imagine negative, fearful outcomes.
  3. Know and live your values and purpose. Take the time to determine clearly what you believe to be your most important values. What MUST be present in your life for you to feel good? Write 3 to 5 of them down and why they are important to you. Then, start to observe your thoughts. Take note of how you make decisions and take actions that are congruent with your values. Make your values your guide to action.
  4. Use your unique gifts and talents to help others. We are all one and at the same time each individual is unique and has a specific place in the universe. You have been given talents and skills that are unique to your journey, but you must relate to others to survive and thrive. When you clear your own misunderstanding about the truth of your existence, everyone benefits. you help us all.

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Marianne Williamson in her book A Return to Love. Says,  “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”

Are You Living Your One Previous Life?

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Life today is clearly more stressful, complicated and unpredictable than it has ever been.

As a result, many of us are tired, worried, stressed and depleted of our life energy. Many people are experiencing some kind of concern about, health, emotional issues or relationships.

Frequently, when I speak with a new client, I hear many of the same concerns such as, “I am so exhausted, I can’t make it through the day.” “I am tired of the life I am living”

Does this sound like your life? You are just going through life in a mindless way, only to realize one day that you are faced with divorce, have a health issue, or over your head in debt.

I have found that many people continue to struggle to maintain a lifestyle that is no longer life-sustaining.

We rarely stop our daily grind long enough to be mindful of our life and what is happening around us. Often people purchase more “things” which they think will help them manage or enjoy their already over-extended lifestyle.

It seems to me that we have allowed ourselves to be hypnotized and seduced by the media, financial institutions, celebrities and political leaders who want to control our lives and our beliefs. If we believe the world is falling apart, that belief takes away our power. However, we have choices in how we decide to believe: are we going to create a new world, or are we going to struggle through this one to our death?

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We have forgotten who we truly are!

Take off the mask and look at the truth of your life and the world around you. We are all divine souls and we have the choice to live our lives as we choose. The divine gave us free will, emotions and the ability to choose. It may seem that you don’t have a choice anymore, but you do.

As an entrepreneur who has been running my own coaching, training, and retreat business for 25 years, I know firsthand how exhausting it can be to keep all the “balls in the air.” 

Several years ago, I made a decision to work more in my home office, decrease most of my unnecessary commitments, and also reduce activities such as networking, attending too many conferences and over-volunteering.

I released many people around me who were not honoring and supporting me in my personal and spiritual development.

I decided to spend more time with myself to meditate, write, walk, pray, and share the precious life I have left with friends who are awake and who have a high vibration for life. I also decided to engage in activism that can help change the world.

To make change requires you to get quiet and to have time to be introspective.

If we do not get quiet, we will never be able to ask ourselves the essential questions of life:  

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What do I deeply want for my life?

What is next in my life and what do I need to release to move into a vibration that will help me manifest the aspects of my life that I truly want?

During these times of turbulent change on the Earth, I highly recommend some of the following steps to help you energize, and reconnect to what is truly important in your life.

  • Stop telling your STORY! If you are still telling the same old story, you have not “let go” so you can heal your life. Instead of the story, ask yourself what you have learned from your life experience and what you need to release so you can move forward. Allow yourself to move through the resistance to hear the truth. 
  • Take a look at your relationships: they reflect your relationship with yourself. If you do not love yourself, you will have a void in your connection with your body, mind and spirit. If you want intimacy and deep love in your life, you must first love yourself. You will then draw in the vibration of a similar level of love from everyone around you.
  • Take your own power back by choosing not to be a victim. Do not listen to fearful thoughts from people around you or from the negative media. Most of the time the media does not know what is really happening in the world! Find sources that support and empower you to become powerful.
  • Be aware of the tricksters who present themselves as gurus, leaders or teachers, who attempt to take your power and control from you. These so-called teachers do not allow you to step into your power. You already have the God/goddess ability to know how to change and heal your life.
  • Clear and detox your body, mind, and spirit. Spend some time connecting with the Earth, place your feet on the Earth and allow the energy to move upward in your body and release the fear and negativity. Listen to music that has a high vibration. Sounds can help clear and rebalance your cells. Go to www.Tom Kenyon.com for free downloads.