Don’t Go Back to Sleep

don't go back to sleep
Sebastian Gabriel 

This poem by Rumi, the Sufi poet, is centuries old but its message is still clear, urgent and timely amidst today’s global pandemic.

“The breeze at dawn has secrets to tell you.

Don’t go back to sleep.

You must ask for what you really want.

Don’t go back to sleep.

People are going back and forth across the doorsill,

where the two worlds touch. The door is round and open.

Don’t go back to sleep.”

We are in the midst of the most life-altering experience most of us have ever endured. Fear of this virus has triggered feelings of anxiety, depression, anger, and loss of control of our lives. We are in survival mode, yet yearning to return to the world we knew just a few short months ago. But Rumi’s message is clear:


So, we must use this sacred opportunity of time to reflect inward, to challenge ourselves to overcome this devastation of human life in order to create a new world that is kinder, healthier, peaceful and loving, a world that is rooted in justice and equality for all. In other words:


To achieve this, we must use this time to make changes. If we do not apply what we learn from this experience, we will surely face the prospect of even more world devastation due to disease, war, economic collapse, climate change or some other global threat. 

Ben White

I know what it takes to stay awake in difficult times. I know it is hard.


As individuals, we can make changes in many areas: our beliefs, our mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health, our work limits, our responsibility for our Earth home, our quality time spent with our families, and our service to others.

I agree: it’s easier to resist, deny, and stay unconscious while focusing on getting back to the life we enjoyed. But, we have a choice to make: remain complacent, or change. As Rumi says, the door is open. Some of us who have listened and learned will choose to cross that threshold to awaken our higher consciousness.


The Importance of Extreme Self Care Starting Now and 2018

Extreme self-care is not just basic self-care. Most of us do basic self-care, like going to the dentist, getting a vision exam, or visiting our primary care doctor for a yearly check-up.
Additionally, you might take a Yoga class, treat yourself to a monthly massage, or exercise daily. But there is much more to extreme self-care than these basic practices. It involves a wholistic mindset and advanced practices that nurture your overall well-being so that you can live the life you love now, and throughout the new year to come.

You may think that extreme self-care, especially during the busy holidays, sounds selfish and self-absorbed. You may say, “Why should I put myself at the top of my list, or focus on what I want when others’ needs come first?”

Well, during the past 15 years, I’ve coached hundreds of clients who have wanted to significantly change their lives. Many of them have been able to overcome obstacles and make dramatic changes in their lives.

From this experience, I have identified six of the most common obstacles that consistently prevent people from really enjoying excellent self-care so they can live the life they love.

 Here are these six obstacles:

  1. Your schedule does not reflect your priorities. You find yourself exhausted at the end of the day with very little time to do the things that are important to you.
  2.  You feel drained by certain people, negative environments, and the management of things. You have a long list of things to do, which seemingly is never completed. Certain types of places and people drain your energy, including family members and some friends who call you to complain.
  3. You have a job or career that may still support you financially, but no longer supports you spiritually. You don’t know how to make the change you need, so you continue working the same job year after year.
  4. You have no plan or vision for your life. You are living day by day and making no changes in your health, relationships or career. Your life is becoming dull and boring.
  5. You are missing a supportive community in your life. You feel isolated and disconnected from others who are like-minded, and who could be of great value to you.
  6. Your spiritual well-being gets lost in your busy life. You would like to spend more time in meditation, prayer, and/or yoga but your busy life keeps getting in your way.

Creating the fulfilling life you want takes courage and vision, and your commitment to your own extreme self-care.

I know this to be true, because I spent much of my mid-life living in New York City, working a full-time nursing job in the evening while developing a fashion and event business during the day. I frequently went to bed at 1 a.m. and got up at 7:00 a.m. I was exhausted most of the time, but I just kept going.

It took me years to slow down and learn to say “no” to overworking and attending events that weren’t important to me.

It has only been during the past eight years that I started to seriously integrate extreme self-care in my life and make myself my priority. That is why I am very passionate about this subject!

Hay House author and life coach Cheryl Richardson wrote a wonderful book, “The Art of Extreme Self-Care: Transform Your Life One Month at a Time.”

Cheryl says, “Enjoying a life of extreme self-care means living and working in a soul-nurturing environment, developing a greater appreciation for and connection with nature, doing work that provides an opportunity to express your greatest gifts and talents, and caring for your emotional, physical, and spiritual health in a way that’s aligned with who you are and what you most need.”

This is a challenging concept for most people!

Here are ways you can turn your life around one change at a time.

  1. Ask yourself, “what is showing up in my life, what is working and what needs to change? What is creating stress and unhappiness in my life?”
  2. Get clear on what you really want for your life. Get your priorities straight. Set new priorities that align with what is really important to you.
  3. Identify the old beliefs and patterns that are holding you back from living an empowered, healthy, and spiritual lifestyle.
  4. Hire a coach to help you be accountable for making change, and start your New Year by joining my 4-hour “Get Going – Jump Into 2018” workshop.
  5. Create a plan that will help you improve your health, nutrition, and well-being. If you have health issues, your health care must be one of your main priorities. Tell yourself the truth about the types of foods you are putting into your body, and how you are really treating your body, while expecting it to fuel and support you all day.
  6. Find a community of like-minded people to support, challenge and encourage you to be your best self. This is one of the most important things you can do to create and sustain your well-being.
  7. Increase your spiritual practice with meditation, prayer, and engaging in religious/spiritual community. Online courses offered by The Shift Network, Sounds True, Wisdom University, and many others are available to support you.

Making a decision to change your life begins by becoming aware that you deserve to live a better life, a healthier life, a more abundant life. You then can make a choice to live a life of extreme, fulfilling self-care!

Let go of the past. In 2018, do something different that moves your life forward this year. Let yourself dream, create a vision, make a plan and most importantly, take action!

Seven Deadly Sins Conscious Business Owners Unconsciously Commit

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By Becky Arrington
Guest Blogger

As a Conscious Business owner you are heartfelt and passionate about the work you do. Most likely you have given your heart and soul to succeed, but you may have committed several of the Seven Deadly Sins that are keeping you from attracting more clients and your business from thriving.

    1. NO SALES STRATEGY: Many Conscious Business owners rely on The Law of Attraction to get their clients. Although Intention does work, it has to be coupled with Action to attract clients to your business. It is important to bridge the gap between holistic, spiritual concepts and the reality of business, creating a strategy that can attract more clients and keep them. Once you have the foundations of your business and are established, THEN you can employ the Law of Attraction to bring more clients into your business, but they have to be able to find you first.

    2. WON’T USE THE “S” WORD: Sales can feel inauthentic, especially if you don’t have the right words and offerings for your business. One of the hardest things to do as a Business Owner is to sell your business. That is why creating language that succinctly describes your business while sharing ways you can help the client out of their pain is an easy way to help you feel comfortable and confident when talking about your business. The “S” word doesn’t have to be Sleazy, let’s reframe it to be Sensational!!

    3. WANTS TO HEAL THE WORLD: As a Conscious Business owner, you would like to work with everybody and perhaps you can. But in the meantime narrowing the scope will do wonders for your business. Having a specific niche to market to will allow you to speak the language of that group as well as fully integrate yourself into the problems they face, equaling MORE SALES!! Understanding who your target market is, what motivates them and what are their challenges will help you create marketing language that speaks directly to them.

    4. BELIEVES MONEY IS EVIL! : Whether it is a past life vow of poverty or some other block, ideas about money can be deep seated, creating the need to go to the root cause of your beliefs. Look deeply within or work with a professional to clear away the past money fears whether from this lifetime or from previous contracts. So many conscious business owners feel it is not right to accept money for their God given gifts. If you have that belief, take a look at the Universal Law of Exchange, stating an exchange of energy is required for every act. Consider looking deeply within to understand what old ideas you may have about money and perhaps it’s time to play nice with money and welcome it into your business!

    5. FEELS UNDER-QUALIFIED: STOP getting certifications!! Many Conscious Business owners are ex-corporate or did something totally unrelated in their former life, so confidence in this new direction may be lacking. More training comes to mind, when in reality it may be something else that is stopping them from moving forwards in their business. Other issues may be around perfectionism, when business owners think everything has to be perfect in order to begin. Whether it is a feeling of worthiness or perfectionism, these can be roadblocks in your business.

    6. FORGETS THE CLIENT: Oh horrors!! Helping others is what you live for! But a website filled with your personal belief mantras or an endless list of modalities and processes you use, is all about you. More sales come when you speak directly to the things in your client’s life that matter to THEM. Whether that be their pain, their hopes or what keeps them up at night. Targeting that pain and offering ways in which your solutions can help, is a way to connect more directly with them. After they are past the crisis, then they can check out your “about” page to know you.
    7. THINKS SPIRITUALITY AND SUCCESS ARE MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE: Whether you are a holistic healer or an ethical energy worker, there is a way to merge “change the world” intentions with 3rd dimensional business practices and create a successful, integral business that makes money. But it sometimes requires changing one’s mindset. Somewhere along the line many Conscious Business Owners have had a disconnect in the success department. It is possible to combine transformational strategies with sound business practices to help you create a platform to showcase your business and attract clients.


beckyBecky is a Success Strategist and Clinical Hypnotherapist who uses her intuitive abilities and alchemical therapies to create new behaviors and thoughts that remove limiting blocks and transform paradigms that stand in the way of success, performance and life.

Transforming Space and Transforming Yourself

successpartnerThis week’s guest blog is featuring my good friend Melody LeBaron and her exciting teleconference on Transforming Space and Transforming Yourself!

You will be surprised what you learn about yourself!

If you have a BIG VISION for your work in the world, but you’re not yet achieving that vision, it’s not too late to sign up for the program that can get you there.

Let me explain: my experience with hundreds of clients has taught me that you can’t be successful in your work unless you are in command of your environment.

Author Jim Rohn says that each of us are the sum total of the 5 people we hang around with most. My colleague Melody LeBaron believes the same concept applies to the 5 environments we spend most time in. Your workspace, your bedroom, your bathroom, your kitchen, your car.

So… do a mental scan of those spaces. Are they peaceful and positive? In them, do you feel powerful?

If your answer is “No” or “Not Really,” you owe it to yourself to jump into Melody LeBaron’s teleseminar series!

This is a Tele Seminar Series that will transform YOU and your space!

You don’t have to be on the calls training live: you’ll get ALL the replays and the bonus material that will cut your de-cluttering and organizing time in half! AND, you’ll learn how develop a truly healthy and supportive relationship with your home that supports you BIG life purpose!

And if you register by MIDNIGHT Monday March 17th you’ll receive a special gift of $100 savings, making your investment just $297!

To learn more and see all the details, simply click here.


7 Great Reasons to Listen to Discover Your Calling

rainbowWelcome to 2014 a New Year.

How is this year going to be different than last year? If you don’t make any changes in your beliefs, dreams or expectations for your life not much will change.

If you could live your life with more passion and purpose what would you be doing, what would you be feeling, how would your life change?

It is not that difficult to make simple life changes than can dramatically shift your life?

This is why Jennifer, my co-host and myself decided to make our own life changes this year and to offer the strategies and practices we are doing on a free teleconference: Discover Your Calling: 4 Power Steps to Activate Your Life Purpose; Wednesday, January 15th at 7:00pm EST.

We have so many people who are interested we had to get more telephone lines! If you can’t attend the complementary teleconference just go ahead and sign up and we will send you the link to download the call.

If you are struggling with feeling connected, passionate, in service and living your purpose here are 7 reasons you should listen to the teleconference.

  1. You have a sense that there is more you are here to be and do in this lifetime, but you are not clear how to tap into your brilliance.
  2. You know you’re supposed to be living a much bigger life than you are now, but don’t know how to make this change.
  3. You’re stuck in old emotions, memories and other unproductive life patterns
  4. You dread going to work or performing your current daily activities.
  5. You expend a lot of energy resisting change or trying to force things to happen or go your way.
  6. You don’t feel connected to your life anymore, or you don’t feel aligned to the natural flow of the universe.
  7. You are frustrated with your lack of progress and spend too much time with struggle, fear and doubt.

Seize this opportunity to explore 4 Power Steps to Activate Your Life Purpose. Sign up Now!

4 Questions To Ask Yourself If You Are Stuck In Your Life

Get UnstuckAre you feeling stuck in your life? Does your life feel unfulfilled? Do you find yourself asking, “Why can’t I create the life I want?”

Any time you’re feeling stuck, you’re dealing with Old Beliefs and Fears and it’s time to breakthrough and let-go of this limited way of living so you can move forward, and feel the joy and potential life holds for you. You deserve to be happy!

First we must detect what is holding us back or limiting our life. You are not your Fear! What you are thinking stands between you and what you want out of life. Disconnection from your essential self, unproductive beliefs and lack of action is what keeps you stuck in the muck of life. It is anything you think, feel, believe or do that prevents you from living your highest potential and dreams.

Old beliefs, may have once served you well; but now they are weighing you down, holding you back. Have you lose sight of who you are, the dreams and vision you once held for your life?

These old beliefs and behavior needs to be replaced with life affirming beliefs and actions for you to have the life you want. By using the 7 Life Affirming Change Principles you acquire the skills and tools to move forward with your dreams. The treasure that awaits you in this excavation process is not only uncovering the vision, dreams, passion and desires you once held for life but also gaining access to all that life holds for you as you discover the truth of who you are.

Begin by asking yourself these questions.

  • What do I want to have in my life?
  • What do I want my life to look like?
  • What is trying to break through or reveal itself in my life?
  • What am I willing to do to create the life I want?

Your words, your thoughts, and your beliefs are the most powerful tools you have for Living Your Dream!

Regardless of your circumstances, regardless of your history, regardless of any situation you may find yourself in, all of it can change in the blink of an eye. Everything you need is within reach. You have access to all that you ever need to live a life filled with joy. Are you ready to get Unstuck? If so, learn how to Live Your Dream!

Five Ways to Build Resilience in Times of Turbulence

Yoga PoseToday is my birthday. I am truly grateful that I am alive, healthy and spiritually conscious.
One thing I have definitely learned from aging is to develop resilience to better deal with the turbulence and crisis that is occurring in my life as well as everyone’s life.

Resilience is the ability to recover quickly from emotional and physical difficulties in our personal life or from global disasters that create crisis, death loss, or grief. Resilience by no means implied you do not experience emotions or the loss in your life. But you do not need to experience prolonged grief and depression. We can learn how to accept the situation as it is. As the spiritual saying goes, “live in the world but not of the world.”

Accept what has happened and live in the now.

This morning I listened to an interview with Dr. Joan Borysenko, on Hardship as a Portal to Conscious Evolution. Joan gave practical steps and guidance that can help us all transcend our trauma and hardship a little easier by learning the skills of resilience.

The part of the brain that activates our emotions-fear and our survival impulse is the amygdale. It is an almond-shape set of neurons located deep in the brain’s medial temporal lobe.

They generate an immediate “fight or flight” response to increase the odds of survival, but they can become hypersensitive, interfering with our ability to experience the present moment in an open and relaxed way.

So we have to learn to quiet this part of the brain by practicing mind-body practices that help us develop resilience. Here are five daily practices that will help your brain to relax so you are not hijacked by your emotions.

  1. Mindful Awareness-Stop and experience what you are doing-driving, washing dishes, or walking. If you are thinking thoughts of the past or future bring your mind into the now. Focus on your heart, breath and come back into the awareness of what is around you.
  2. Mindfulness Meditation-New research indicates that you do not need to meditate for long periods of time to have a positive effect. Start sitting and relaxing for 5 minutes and do that two or three times a week. This will change your brain structure.
  3. Breathing-If you find yourself worried about your career, your relationship, your health start breathing. Take deep breathes in and and then draw your lips together and slowly exhale. 4-6 breaths per minute change your brain.
  4. Physical Exercise-Research shows that exercise works as well or better than an antidepressant. So walk, run, swim, do tai chi or yoga.
  5. Gratitude- Start your morning by saying what you are grateful for. If you think you have nothing to be grateful for be grateful for your breath and that you woke up today. Gratitude for your life will change your life.

I hope this birthday post has been helpful. I have found these practices to be helpful to change and transform as we go through this period of Conscious Evolution. What practices do you do to build resilience?

Deep love,

Joyce Dillon

A Lesson in Stillness
A Hike in the North Georgia Mountains

Apple Capitol of Georgia

Photo: Art Meripol

About 80 miles north of Atlanta, the small town of Ellijay sits on the edge of the Chattahoochee National Forest. Renowned as the “Apple Capitol of Georgia.”

These poems by Mark Nepo reminds me of how much I love to hike in the fall in the North Georgia Mountains. It is magnificent!

Reduced to Joy

I was sipping coffee on the way to work,the back road under a canopy of maples turning orange. In the dip of woods, a small doe gently leaping. I pulled over, for there was nowhere else to go. She paused as if she knew I was watching. A few orange leaves fell around her like blessings no one can seem to find. I sipped some coffee, completely at peace, knowing it wouldn’t last. But that’s alright.

We never know when we will blossom into what we’re supposed to be. It might be early. It might be late. It might be after thirty years of failing at a misguided way. Or the very first time we dare to shed our mental skin and touch the world.

They say, if real enough, some see God at the moment of their death. But isn’t every fall and letting go a death? Isn’t God waiting right now in the chill between the small doe’s hoof and those fallen leaves? — Mark Nepo

Excerpted from Reduced to Joy by Mark Nepo.

On the Ridge

We can grow by simply listening, the way the tree on that ridge listens its branches to the sky, the way blood listens its flow to the site of a wound, the way you listen like a basin when my head so full of grief can’t look you in the eye. We can listen our way out of anger, if we let the heart soften the wolf we keep inside. We can last by listening deeply, the way roots reach for the next inch of earth, the way an old turtle listens all he hears into the pattern of his shell. — Mark Nepo

Excerpted from Reduced to Joy by Mark Nepo.

Let Go of Clutter and Free Up Your Life Energy

It’s Springtime… time to bring in the new in all areas of our lives! I’m finally opening my windows, opening my closets and opening myself to letting go of the clutter I find in them!

This isn’t as easy as it sounds. If you’re like me, you may be overwhelmed with the sheer amount of your stuff that demands to be managed. For example, are you keeping clothes that still have the price tags on them? What about that “nice, but not my style” gift you received from your aunt last year? Does your office look like a white (paper) tornado hit it? Do you realize that the cupboards and closets in our homes that harbor our physical stuff are often a reflection of the closets in our minds?

Our mind is where clutter actually accumulates first, before it manifests itself as excess physical things in our homes. Here is where old thought patterns, emotions and anxieties that keep us confused, stuck and unhealthy (mental clutter) must be “busted” first, particularly the guilty or shameful feelings that made us acquire the things in the first place.

Our outer clutter reflects a degree of our inner clutter. The mind is where the real work begins, where change must happen before any home closet can be purged.

Clutter is all about feeling “stuck,” experiencing fear of or difficulty making change, letting go and moving on. It’s about not feeling good about yourself, and possibly wanting something that has passed. Clutter keeps your energy either in the past or the future, yet prevents you from living in the now.

So what makes us collect, keep and manage excess stuff in the first place? What personal void does our stuff fill? And how does our addiction to stuff, particularly excess stuff, affect us psychologically?

Brooks Palmer, author of “Clutter-Busting: Letting Go of What’s Holding You Back,” says that we try to give our lives significance by filling it up with things, which doesn’t work. Only a feeling of personal significance will replace our need to acquire things. Peter Walsh, host of TLC’s hit show Clean Sweep, and Oprah’s organizer, adds: “Stuff robs people of so much. If your house is full of stuff, all the blessings that could fill your house can’t get in. The stuff takes over. It robs you psychologically. You can’t be at peace.”

Stuff management wastes time and creates work that works against us in our homes and offices. Melody LeBaron, Home and WorkSpace Expert, says “We each have a relationship, a partnership, with the spaces we live and work in. And that partnership is either working for us or against us. Your space is either raising your mood and physical energy level because it’s clean, efficient, and pleasing. Or it is lowering your mood and energy level because it’s not.”

So how do you tackle that mental clutter that forges our strong emotional attachment to things – owning too many things – so that your peace of mind can be restored as well as your motivation and acceptance of change and progress? I suggest that you start by taking an inventory of your excess things which will naturally lead you to taking an inventory of your life. Become aware of your thinking and behavior patterns. Recognize how your thinking shows up in your life and your things. What emotions do your things satisfy?

If it’s sentimentality, ask yourself if those long-held thoughts and behaviors are still serving you today? If not, are you willing to let them and those things go, and to replace them with clarity, insight and happiness? This mental inventory exercise should help reduce your stress and simplifying your life by making it easier to let go of things that create excess work for you, things that you must manage beyond a reasonable degree, things that no longer give you joy, or serve you here and now. Stop suffocating yourself with stuff and watch your energy flow into your life!

So, how does your stuff serve you, or enslave you? How do you decide what supports you, and what steals from you? Write to tell me about how you manage your letting-go process and how that translates into a happier, healthier you!

A Profound Connection Between the Mind and Body

We live in a time of extraordinary planetary change that has profoundly affected the information on holistic healing modalities. Many more people are exploring the multitude of mind-body and spiritual modalities that are available options for trauma, emotional issues, pre- or post- surgery, chronic illness, and stress related disorders.

There is a huge change of scientific thinking in our time. The seeds of a new vision or reality are sprouting everywhere in physics, biology and psychology. It is a shift away from matter as the only reality, toward the inclusion of consciousness and mind. Cutting–edge information in the study of mind-body integration indicates the vital importance of our beliefs and perceptions and how they influence our bodies in creating health.

Significantly, people are now becoming more aware of their “core beliefs.” Core material is composed of memories, images, beliefs, neural patterns and deeply-held emotional dispositions. These ideas shape the styles, habits, behavior, perceptions and physical attitudes that define us as individuals.

Our responses to the major themes of life – safety, belonging, support, power, freedom, responsibility, sexuality, etc. – are all organized by our core thinking.

Some core beliefs support our ability to be who we desire to be, while some of our beliefs continue to limit us in living our best possible lives. These limiting beliefs function as a barrier or filter to the normal process of daily information that is received by our brains.

Illness is an opportunity for personal growth and transformation. As health care providers we are called upon to serve as catalysts and guides in this process.

In my own practice as a wellness coach and holistic practitioner, we use a variety of mind-body interventions that are designed to facilitate the mind’s capacity to affect change in core beliefs which have created emotional and physical symptoms. These techniques include meditation, energy psychology, mind-body practices, trauma release and visual imagery.

Now is the time to live your best life!