Let’s assume that you’ve identified your true purpose in life and you’re on your way to actualizing it. And then you fall off track. You realize that you have started to sabotage reaching your goals.
Perhaps you’re not keeping up with writing your blog. Perhaps you’re procrastinating on starting an important new project. Maybe you’re not getting regular exercise or losing those extra 20 pounds. Or you’re becoming stressed out or feeling guilty about time away from family. Why?
Here are a few ways to get motivated to get back on track.
Believe You Will Succeed
Many of us lack the confidence we need to pursue our dreams. We tend to doubt ourselves. We can be so afraid of failing that we unconsciously sabotage our success. We all fail at something, but failure is the best way in the world to learn to develop stamina and resilience. Louise Hay, motivational author, says to tell yourself every morning, “I am successful, I am confident, I am supported by people who desire to work with me.”
Surround Yourself with Successful People
It is important to surround yourself with positive thinking people—friends and co-workers who are emotionally and spiritually grounded and making a difference in the world. People who support your dreams and help you find ways to manifest your business or career. Your dreams are fragile. Be careful who you share you deepest desires with.
Align Your Thoughts with Your Goals
Our thoughts and feelings are alive. They are energy, just like everything else in the world. If you are having a hard time manifesting what you deeply desire for your life, it could be because you are struck in an old belief about yourself.
Changing this belief is a critical step in learning to align your thoughts with your life vision or goals. If you want to be successful in your business or in any area of your life you must be aware of your emotions and thoughts. Write down your goals and see them as already happening.
How Can We Avoid Self-sabotage?
Cultivating mindful awareness of our behavior is key to avoiding the pitfalls of self-sabotage. The steps involved are the same as those I teach in my coaching on finding one’s true purpose:
- Meditate and reflect. Get quiet and connect to the present moment. Acknowledge the critical inner voice whispering in your ear, telling you that you can’t succeed.
- Sit with a journal or piece of paper. Ask yourself: “What did I do/not do to defeat my progress towards my goal?
- Pay attention! Over time, the deep reasons behind your self-doubt will be revealed. The truth might at first make you anxious because it means challenging deeply engrained, old and familiar attitudes that we’ve long held about ourselves.
Change Can Be Hard – Don’t Tough it Out Alone
Exploring old, unproductive, limiting thought patterns and changing them can be difficult. And our tendency to back-slide on the best of intentions is pernicious. I can help you take control by helping you develop a Life Purpose Action Plan to move you forward faster. Once you identify and process the root cause of your fear, and learn how to manage it, the self-sabotaging behavior will stop.