The Top 5 Ways to Build Resilience During Difficult Times

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At this point in the world, we must all realize that we’re living in very challenging times and yet at the same time, a very profound transformational period. It seems everybody I know is going through something on a personal level-illness, fatigue, sadness, depression. grief, and or loss.

In addition to your personal journeys we are being threatened by, political breakdowns, mass shootings, devastating earthquakes, merciless wildfires, severe storms- with mass flooding.

Humanity is in the throes of an ever-growing collective consciousness that wants to evolve, yet old ways of being and outdated modes of consciousness are struggling to hold on to the known.

So, the big question today, is ‘How do we build resilience so that we do not collapse under stress, grief, loss, and fear and at the same time keep our hearts open to others and take care of ourselves?’

Awakening is no longer a luxury or an idea. It is critical.

It is also critical that we deal with our own anger, feelings of separation, addictions, and fear.

Mayo Clinic reports that Resilience is the ability to adapt well and recover quickly after stress, adversity, trauma or tragedy.

I believe I have developed fairly strong resilience over my lifetime resulting from my childhood and the traumas I experienced as well as the tools and spiritual practices I have taught and engaged in over the years.

I have had losses that have taken me to the underworld of darkness but I have always been able to rebound.

The eye of a hurricane is a place of calm, around which spins the storm. We become the eye when we pull ourselves out of the chaos and into the present moment.

Here are several ways that I recommend to pull yourself out of the storm and into the calm of the eye of the storm that will help you build resilience to deal with emotional and physical pain during these difficult times.

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Five Daily Practices to Build Resilience

  1. Mindful Awareness of Thoughts 
    Stop and experience what you are doing-driving, doing the laundry, or walking. If you are thinking thoughts of the past or future bring your mind into the now. Focus on your heart, breath and come back into the awareness of what is around you.
  2. Heart-Brain Coherence Meditation
    New research indicates that you do not need to meditate for long periods of time to have a positive effect. You do have to connect the breath to the heart and the brain. Start by sitting and relaxing for 5-15 minutes. Inhale from the heart to the head and exhale the breath from the head to the heart. When you connect the heart and the brain you develop less resistance to meditate.
  3. Spiritual Support Group.
    Join or start a spiritual or a healthy living group with at least 4 people who come together live or remotely to support each other in moving through these difficult but transformational times.
  4. Gratitude
    Start your morning by saying what you are grateful for. If you think you have nothing to be grateful for being grateful for your breath and that you woke up today. Gratitude for your life will change your life.
  5. Extreme Self-Care and Compassion.
    During periods of stress, we often fall back on old patterns of relating to ourselves and the world. We can be harsh and critical, and not care for our body. To build resilience we must support our body and mind to heal with healthy food, water, and exercise. You must care for yourself!

These are just a few of the ways to develop tools that help you become more resilient. How have you become more resilient? Let me know, I am always interested in learning what helps others.

Five Ways to Build Resilience in Times of Turbulence

Yoga PoseToday is my birthday. I am truly grateful that I am alive, healthy and spiritually conscious.
One thing I have definitely learned from aging is to develop resilience to better deal with the turbulence and crisis that is occurring in my life as well as everyone’s life.

Resilience is the ability to recover quickly from emotional and physical difficulties in our personal life or from global disasters that create crisis, death loss, or grief. Resilience by no means implied you do not experience emotions or the loss in your life. But you do not need to experience prolonged grief and depression. We can learn how to accept the situation as it is. As the spiritual saying goes, “live in the world but not of the world.”

Accept what has happened and live in the now.

This morning I listened to an interview with Dr. Joan Borysenko, on Hardship as a Portal to Conscious Evolution. Joan gave practical steps and guidance that can help us all transcend our trauma and hardship a little easier by learning the skills of resilience.

The part of the brain that activates our emotions-fear and our survival impulse is the amygdale. It is an almond-shape set of neurons located deep in the brain’s medial temporal lobe.

They generate an immediate “fight or flight” response to increase the odds of survival, but they can become hypersensitive, interfering with our ability to experience the present moment in an open and relaxed way.

So we have to learn to quiet this part of the brain by practicing mind-body practices that help us develop resilience. Here are five daily practices that will help your brain to relax so you are not hijacked by your emotions.

  1. Mindful Awareness-Stop and experience what you are doing-driving, washing dishes, or walking. If you are thinking thoughts of the past or future bring your mind into the now. Focus on your heart, breath and come back into the awareness of what is around you.
  2. Mindfulness Meditation-New research indicates that you do not need to meditate for long periods of time to have a positive effect. Start sitting and relaxing for 5 minutes and do that two or three times a week. This will change your brain structure.
  3. Breathing-If you find yourself worried about your career, your relationship, your health start breathing. Take deep breathes in and and then draw your lips together and slowly exhale. 4-6 breaths per minute change your brain.
  4. Physical Exercise-Research shows that exercise works as well or better than an antidepressant. So walk, run, swim, do tai chi or yoga.
  5. Gratitude- Start your morning by saying what you are grateful for. If you think you have nothing to be grateful for be grateful for your breath and that you woke up today. Gratitude for your life will change your life.

I hope this birthday post has been helpful. I have found these practices to be helpful to change and transform as we go through this period of Conscious Evolution. What practices do you do to build resilience?

Deep love,

Joyce Dillon