Is the Life or Business You Are Living The Life You Desire?

Life desires

As I travel to engage in conferences or coach entrepreneurs, teach life purpose classes or facilitate painting retreats, people consistently ask me the same question: “Joyce, how do I discover my purpose in life?”

Right now, millions of people are experiencing a yearning and desire to awaken to their unique gifts and talents, offer them in service to the world, and to enjoy a life of abundance and fulfillment as a result.

So why is living a life of meaning and purpose so elusive? It is because our current social system does not support us to live “on purpose” but rather to live “in survival mode.”

This is why many people feel trapped in a dull, daily routine which drains their life energy. They may also be plagued by stress, and wracked with anxiety and fear. Others are frantically “chasing the buck” and/or consumed with their lust for power and possessions.

However, many others may already enjoy freedom, the fruit of their prosperity generated from their business, but even such freedom does not quench their thirst for true and rich meaning in their life.

One of life’s great fulfillments is achieving true inner and outer purpose.

As we know, it is not always easy to find and live your life purpose! While this reflection work cannot be fully accomplished during a single session or a weekend retreat, it is a great place to start this process.

So how and where do you start?

The process begins with becoming self-aware, then accepting a high level of responsibility for your life. Next, you can learn how to remove the blocks and beliefs that keep you from realizing your true potential.

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Getting Clear on a New Path

The first step is to get quiet and get connected to the present moment. You must release your concerns regarding your past and your future. Meditation and quiet reflection are essential tools you’ll use on this journey of self-discovery.

Sit with a journal or piece of paper. Ask yourself: “What is trying to come forth in my life? What is my inner purpose for my life? What is my greater calling?”

Keep meditating and asking these questions.

Pay attention! Over time, your purpose will be revealed through the type of information, events and opportunities which come into your life.

Sarah’s Search to Reveal Her Life Purpose

Sarah, a divorce attorney, consulted me to help her break through her unhappiness within her current legal career. She wanted to start a business that was in alignment with her desire to empower women to use their gifts to enjoy a more meaningful life.

We started by examining Sarah’s life for common threads and major themes. Together, we identified her core, lifelong strengths, values, and passions that energized her and brought her joy.

As a result of this work together, Sarah started a non-profit organization which empowers women around the world to build small businesses which support themselves and their families. Sarah is now enjoying a more meaningful and purposeful life!

Getting Support

Like Sarah, most people find this process challenging to do alone. That’s why I recommend you share this experience with a small group of like-minded individuals, or have a “Finding Your Life Purpose” session that I offer.

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Ready to find and live your life purpose? Then take the first step by signing up for a complimentary Find Your Life Purpose session. Together, we will take the next steps!

2 Steps to Take Before You Successfully Launch a Business

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Often, people come up with an idea for a business, product or service after they have completed a coaching program, participated in a marketing teleconference or attended a motivational seminar. This is great because it’s the first step toward entrepreneurial freedom!

The next step is to define how your business idea fits into your current lifestyle. Use these two power keys to define, refine and align your lifestyle with your ideas and goals.

Power Key 1: Assess Yourself Honestly!

What is showing up in your life right now? What are your main concerns? Do you or your family members have any health concerns? Do you have a solid support system comprised of a spouse, family, and/or close friends? Do you have the time and energy it takes to start a part-time or full-time business? Do you have the financial foundation to stay afloat for 6 to 12 months? What could potentially block your success?

In which areas of your life are you happy or at least satisfied, and which areas do you want to change? No area is more important than another, because a meaningful life is one of balance and fulfillment on many levels.

Self-assessment requires that you evaluate yourself and your lifestyle honestly as if you are an objective observer. It will help you get crystal clear about what you really want, whether you are ready to launch your business right now, and if so, how to design your business blueprint.

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Power Key 2: Get Crystal Clear About What You Deeply Desire For Your Life

This next power key involves three practical steps which will help you clearly understand who you are authentically, and what you desire for your life. So how do you really get crystal clear?

Step One: Get Quiet

Sit in a comfortable, quiet place with no distractions. Be still, meditate, relax and just listen to that little inner voice that has been trying to reach you. What is trying to come forth from you?

Step Two: Note Ideas That Keep Calling YOU

What do you like to do, what interests you, what keeps attracting and holding your attention? What patterns keep showing up in your life? In what type of classes are you interested, but never allow yourself to take? What do you daydream about…ideas like opening a day spa, or a gourmet shop at the beach in Martha’s Vineyard, or using your creative flair with food to become a chef?

Step Three: Record Your Answers to These Questions

Next, while still in your quiet place, let your body and mind relax, and tell your inner self: Let’s go a little deeper.

What images keep popping into your mind when you think about your passion? If you had all the money in the world, what would you be doing with it? What do you really want to do next?

Write down whatever comes to your mind, whatever you deeply, seriously long for, not just superficial or material desires. Allow yourself to think really, really big! Do not edit yourself! This exercise will help you create a clearer picture for your next steps in creating your business idea.

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How Do We Live Fully In The Present Moment?

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have. Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future to arrive. It means living your life consciously aware that each moment your breath is a genuine gift!

So how do you start the process of living in the moment?

First you must become aware of how much time you spend dwelling on past memories, losses and mistakes, and considering how to resolve these old problems.

Next, think about how much time you spend focused on your future. Believing you will be fulfilled only when you get that great car, that perfect romantic relationship or that once-in-a-lifetime career opportunity is often not as fulfilling as you thought.

Such beliefs physically drain you of the life energy you need to experience the only thing that is real, which is the Now.

In his renowned book, Spiritual Solutions, Deepak Chopra speaks to the reality that it is our own mind, with its nearly constant stream of thoughts about the past, and the concern for the future that causes all of our anxiety and anguish. We create our own problems, not other people or outside environmental forces.

To live in the present moment means you have to be willing to slow down, simplify and do nothing. It takes a while to get to this point. It can be more difficult than it sounds. If you’re not in the habit of doing nothing for periods of time, how do you start?

Key 1: Start with an hour, perhaps a lunch hour, or choose to get up an hour early or set aside an hour on the weekend to just sit and be with yourself.

Key 2: Pay attention to what you are doing as you are doing it. It helps us truly see what is going on in our lives.

Many of us go through our days almost as though we are sleepwalking. Every now and then, we wake up for a brief instant of clarity and say to ourselves, “Why is this happening in my life”?

And then we fall back into our semiconscious state as we continue bumbling about, half asleep at the wheel of life. We don’t pay sufficient attention to what we are doing as we are doing it, and then we wonder why we end up in the predicaments that we do.

Key 3: Start by being aware of your daily thoughts and what you are thinking about. How much energy are you giving away to the past or the future? Be willing to slow down and start experiencing your moment-by-moment life.

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You can’t always get away to a retreat to relax…so we all have to learn how to shut off the endless onslaught of activities and demands that create our frenetic life-style, increase our stress, strain our relationships and eventually cause illness.

Don’t let another day go by without asking yourself, “What do I need to do to live more in the moment?” Here are a few tips to start you on this worthwhile journey.

Ten Tips On Living In the Present Moment:

  1. Go to a quite place and just sit
  2. Take a nap in the middle of the day
  3. Enjoy a massage
  4. Stroll in the park
  5. Breath deeply, inhale and exhale
  6. Let go of emotions and disappointment
  7. Learn to meditate
  8. Practice Tai Chi, Qigong
  9. Spend more time in nature
  10. Take a bath with essential oils

I would love to hear how you live in the moment. Let me know….

Joyce Dillon, RN, MN is a life, and career success coach that specializing in working with women entrepreneurs, small business and corporate women in transition to help them discover, launch, and thrive in their life and business. Get your free gift, Create The Life You Love for a free guide on how to get clear on how to live an authentic, successful and financially abundant life.

Awaken To Your Calling: Create the Life and Work You Love

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  • Are you yearning to make a life change but find it overwhelming?
  • Do you continue to work at a job that drains your very soul?
  • Are you fearful of doing what you most desire to do?

There is always a particular moment when you clearly know you need to make change in your life. That desire for change is a like a grain of sand in a shoe, imperceptible at first but grinding away until it becomes the only thing you notice. Your instinct is to dismiss the feelings. Saying, “I can tough this out “or “it could be worse”.

Often we find it easier to recognize the emotions and feeling of others but nearly impossible to recognize our own needs and yearnings. Why is this?

By midlife, after years of loss, comprise, denial, and fear we lose track of our “true self” and the dreams we had. We often struggle letting go of what does not serve our highest needs.

The ego has great difficulty letting go of anything and will defend itself with great intensity. The truth is we must let go of who we are in order to become who we want to be. Gregory Levoy, author of Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic life says, “Sometimes we hear the calling but fear what will be demanded of us if we respond to the “call”.

Our lives speak through our actions and reactions, our intuitions and instincts, our feelings and our words. If we can learn to listen, read our own responses, we will receive the guidance we need.

You must slow down to be able to hear the “calling”, as to why you need to reinvent yourself, change your mindset, change your career, go back to school, or start a business.

Moments of awareness come in many ways to point us toward action.
They include:

  • A dream that keeps coming back.
  • A symptom in your body that reoccurs
  • A call from someone you need to hear from
  • A book that falls into your lap
  • An emotional issue that keeps reappearing
  • A e-mail that excites you about doing volunteer work

These wake-up calls stimulate your intuition; encourage you to ask deeper questions and to seek the answers. This process is a gateway into the deepest layers of your “inner self”.

The time is now! All it takes is an idea, a discovery or a breakthrough that turns the fear of your unwanted situation into the hope of new possibilities.

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It’s Never Too Late To Change Your Life

women_with_arms_outstretchedIt’s never too late – never too late to start over, never too late to be happy. -Jane Fonda

Change is inevitable-and it is everywhere around us on the planet…

It’s hard not to see all the changes that are happening around us-as our old rigid structures such as our political, finance, health, are crumbling in front of us.

Most everyone I know has experienced some life-changing crisis that has required drastic change?

In the last few years, I have experienced several health challenges, and loss and grief of many things I loved in my life. Experiencing deep grief requires you to dig deep into who you are at your essence to help you rebound and reset the course of your life.

I had to work with my thoughts and beliefs daily to get through this rough period. It was about letting go of deep fear of loss and grief of who I thought my self to be. This transformative process required a profound shift in my mind, body and spirit. Here are three steps that helped me to get unstuck.

  1. Stop focusing on what you lost. Find something to replace it, and acknowledge the blessings you have now.
  2. Follow your passion and the next steps will be revealed to you. When you look back on your life you know this to be true.
  3. Trust your intuition and pay attention to the “calls” and synchronicities of events that the universe is sending to you daily.

As difficult as this period is, the changes we are all experiencing need to happen so we can create a more vibrant, authentic, and spiritually connected life.

Yes, change is inevitable-and it all begins with you!

Would you like to discover how to more fully live the life you desire? Read more.

Joyce Dillon, RN, MN
Visionary Life and Success Coach

5 Steps to the Path to Happiness

pathtohappiness From Pharrell Williams’ chart-topping hit “Happy” to Sharon Salzman’s Real Happiness at Work, it’s no wonder our happiness is foremost in our minds. Yet in our fast-paced, challenging, stressful lives, real happiness seems elusive.

So what exactly is happiness? Most people agree that happiness involves feeling good, and wanting to go on feeling that way. Unhappiness involves feeling bad about our selves and our lives, and therefore, wanting things to change for the better.

Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D, and author of the best-selling book A Happy You, says the first step is recognizing what you already have in your life right now, and being grateful for it. So, what makes you happy?

Here are five steps to generate greater happiness, despite challenges you may be facing.

  1. Forgive others and yourself. Forgiveness is the first step to real happiness.
  2. Connect with others. Find friends and groups of like-minded people who support each other.
  3. Take care of your body and mind. Exercise is a powerful tool for feeling good.
  4. Find passion, purpose and meaning in work and relaxation activities that support your dreams.
  5. Be part of something bigger than yourself. Serve organizations that support the causes in which you believe.

For many of us, happiness is a choice. Reality is not. It seems that making a choice to be happy actually can change your reality!

If you need a blast of happiness I recommend you consider coming to an intuitive painting class that totally support happiness, enjoyment and fun. Check it out.