5 Ways To Renew Your Body, Mind and Spirit Without Leaving Home

bloomingpoppyThere are days when I feel I can’t do one more thing. I feel physically and emotionally exhausted, and way over-extended. This is when I recognize that I must renew my mind, body and spirit.

Do you ever experience this as well?

If so, here are a few ways to help you get energized and back on track.

  1. Reserve one day only for self-pampering. Sleep later than normal. Get up slowly, meditate, enjoy a slow, healthy breakfast, read that great book next to your bed and take another nap. Pure bliss!
  2. Light a candle, run a hot bath and soak in scented oils for as long as you want. Let your self drift off and day-dream. Relaxation and day-dreaming is so healthy for your body and brain!
  3. Review your life vision. Are you going in the direction of your dream? Create a vision board, write in your journal, or paint a picture. Visualize yourself where you want to be in the near future. Believe you can create the reality you desire!
  4. Prepare a wonderful, healthy meal of fish, avocado and walnut salad, and steamed vegetables. Slowly sip green tea or a glass of red wine. Your body will love you for this!
  5. Take time to stretch, do some yoga on the mat, or go for a walk in the park. You will begin to release your stress and feel much more relaxed!

5 Steps to Get Unstuck and Move Forward With Your Life

Joyce Dillon - Move forward with your life

It has been a hard year for a lot of us as we experience loss, grief, health issues and radical change, both personally and globally. Although you may not be able to make all the changes you want now, you can start to mentally and emotionally make changes for how you want your life to be.

It’s time to get unstuck and make a change! Do you know what changes you need to make? If you are like a lot of us, there is at least one area where you feel stagnant, blocked, or at a loss.

Should you try to breathe life back into a tired relationship–or say enough and stop throwing good years away? Have you had it with your ho-hum job that is leading you nowhere? Do you need to take better care of your body in a healthy way but don’t know where to start?

Are you yearning for change?
It is a time for deep introspection, and for exploring how you want to live this part of your life and how you want to become more authentically who you are.

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  • Step One: Schedule a quiet time to think about some of the questions you need to ask yourself to make change.

Do I want to spend the rest of my working life in my present career? What changes can I begin to make now to ensure better physical and psychological health for the rest of my life? Which relationships do I want to keep and which do I let go? Am I really happy and content with my daily life now? The deeper question is “What Would I Love to Do With My Life?”

  • Step Two: Get clear about what you want for your life.

Develop a personal profile that highlights several areas: Your passions, your dream job or career, your wish for where you want to live, and your overall health and wellness. Give yourself permission to get in touch with your suppressed vision of who you truly are and how you want your life to actually be.

  • Step Three: Identify obstacles and outdated beliefs.

Do you have limiting thoughts that are holding you back?
Your set of beliefs, thoughts and lifestyle habits, which include your food choices, your form of exercise, your sleep patterns and stress level, can be an obstacle for living a healthy lifestyle. What are your thoughts and limiting behaviors? It is essential that you learn how to recognize your unproductive thoughts, and how the thoughts make you feel. If you feel good you know you are in a positive or higher vibration. Develop tools such as empowering statements like “Everything is in divine flow”, listen to music that will energize and refocus your thoughts.

  • Step Four: Take action to make permanent change.

It is not enough to just verbalize or visualize your goals. You must have a plan and take steps to create what you want!
Action Steps: Write down your vision and action steps to achieve them during the next 3 months. Identify your strengths and areas that need improvement and follow up with your plan.

  • Step Five: Get help to hold yourself accountable.

To help you manifest your goals and dreams, I recommend that you create accountability by finding a buddy, hiring a coach, or joining a mastermind group with like-minded people to help you reach you goals.

We are all coping in these turbulent times. It’s not abnormal or unusual to sometimes face the lesson or challenge, or to sometimes be in the dark either unaware or stuck. Relief is palpable when we discover that it’s okay to be where you are. Breathe, let go!

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Is your life calling you? Finding and living your life purpose

“Do not wait until the conditions are perfect to begin. Beginning makes the conditions perfect.”
-Alan Cohen

doorwayI grew up in Louisville, Kentucky in a close-knit, blue-collar, small community. My father died when I was seven and left my mother to raise me. As a “career housewife,” she was forced to quickly learn a marketable skill to support us. She became a caregiver for children and older adults.

Like many other people, my mother’s career and life path was the result of chance rather than personal choice. Yet no one in my community or even my own family ever asked me, “Joyce, what do you want to do with your life?”

During most of my youth, I yearned to move to New York to work in the fashion industry, a dream which was clearly not supported by my family. Both my mother and brother encouraged me to get a job that would provide me with income that would support me for my lifetime.

So I abandoned my New York dreams and became a nurse. This worthwhile profession provided me much personal freedom and a good salary for most of my life. I loved being a nurse for years yet I never really allowed myself to explore my calling of who I really am.

I never really understood what a “calling” was or how to find my life purpose until I started working on my own personal and spiritual development.

In my late 30’s, I realized part of my life-long dream. I moved to New York City, yet to work as the Clinical Nurse Director in a hospital. Over time, I became increasingly challenged to continue working along this path. I was beginning to listen to my “calling” to leave the career I had in order to create a new life more aligned with who I truly am.

On the day I resigned my position, I had no concrete plan for my life; nevertheless I took the first step on my life’s new path by enrolling in classes on how to run a business.

Again, I had no clear vision at that time, yet I bravely took action which launched me in the right direction after so many years on other paths.

Looking back over the past 30 years, I realize that I have recreated my life path multiple times. I have been a fashion consultant, a travel and meeting planner, a nurse consultant and now, a life and wellness coach. Each choice seemed to move me closer to my deeper life passion and purpose.

Are You Listening to Your Calls?

Perhaps you are already discovering that, as you move through life, your soul becomes “louder”: it starts to wake you up, shake you up, and demand more of you related to your life’s purpose, which is what your divine/God self expressed through you, wants you to do with your talents, your gifts, and your life.

Do you recognize these clues that indicate that you are moving toward your calling?

  1. Your current job or daily routine is increasingly stealing your joy and your energy. You find yourself exhausted at the end of every day, and are even more tired thinking about doing it again tomorrow.
  2. You have recurring symptoms such as a pain in your neck or shoulders which could be a metaphor for your life, as in you are “shouldering too much responsibility.”
  3. You feel a “tugging” inside you toward something else, but you either can’t identify exactly what that “something else” is, or you don’t allow yourself to explore what it could be.
  4. You keep relying on or reliving old patterns, old habits, or an old routine that worked for you in the past, only to find that now, they don’t. Doors that used to open easily are locked. Traditional paths lead to brick walls.
  5. You look for opportunities and excuses to do the things you love more often, and “sneak” them into your day when no one is watching because they’re your only lifesavers right now.

Recognize these feelings? That’s because your soul is trying to get your attention, get your head out of the way, and get you to listen to what you need to do to move forward.

Coaching mid-life women who are in transition, crisis or change to find their life purpose in their career, health, relationships, finances or well-being, is MY life purpose.

What’s yours? Have you always dreamt of doing something such as write a book, start a foundation to support children or women, live in a foreign country, get more education, and change your career…but until now, have never allowed yourself to do?

If you are serious about finding and living your life purpose, then download our complimentary audio recording, “Discovering Your Calling: 4 Power Steps to Activate Your Purpose.”

Also, join Jennifer and me in our 4-week course to learn how to step into your life purpose starting Wednesday, February 26th, at 7:00 p.m. EST. If you can’t attend each session, sign-up to get the recording so you can listen at your convenience, and listen up for your calling!

Blessings, Joyce

4 Power Steps to Activate Your Life Purpose

Are you longing to live your purpose and destiny in life?

Have you spent years working on your personal and spiritual development, only to recognize a confusing gap between what you deeply desire and what you experience in your daily life?

Why does it seem so difficult to discover your life purpose?

Most of us were taught to not honor our divine gifts and instead choose a career or job that would bring us power and/or financial security. Midlife people– particularly women –are waking up inside, longing for something greater than traditional successful endeavors, realizing that they are living out someone else’s dream.

We all have a unique talent…something we love to do better than anyone else in the world.

When we use that special talent or gift to serve others, we live in the highest potential of our essence.

You are invited to discover your own unique life purpose… During this free teleclass, my colleague Jennifer McKenna will join me. Together, we’ll provide you with an overview and understanding of the 4 Power Steps to Activate Your Life Purpose!

  1. Create a Vision – Clarify what is attempting to emerge from within to help you create the life you deserve.
  2. Conquer Fear and Doubt – Identify old self-sabotaging core beliefs that keep you stuck in a vicious cycle or unable to hear and respond to your calling.
  3. Break Down to Breakthrough – Understand the current shift in awareness that is causing dramatic or traumatic change in our personal lives and around the globe, which is actually supporting our transformation.
  4. Create Your Community – Learn how to build a support system of like-minded people and resources to help you create and develop the next steps that will bring your vision to life.

We look forward to you joining us for this free teleclass on January 15th, 2014 at 7:00 pm EST.

Have a beautiful, peaceful Holiday Season.

Aiming For Perfection? Just Live

Recently I offered several workshops focusing on self-compassion. I began each one by saying, “This weekend is a project in non-self-improvement.”

This statement was often followed by laughter and then a slow realization that gradually revealed a premise that nearly every one of us carries: We must always be improving, forever trying to make ourselves better, thinner, more spiritual; in a word, perfect.

For many of us, it is our primary motivating concern. Hidden under this pressure is a belief that says, “Unless I improve, make myself better, bordering on perfect, I will continue to live outside the circle of welcome and approval.”

This anxiety haunts many of us. We spend a lifetime trying to get it right. We become obsessed with growth and progress, trying to muscle our way into acceptability. This leaves little room for those parts of us that do not fit the image we are trying to show the world. The weak, needy, inadequate, fearful and sorrowful parts are often abandoned, discarded and left in the shadows.

Without them, however, we lose something essential to our aliveness. These pieces bring us down into the territory of soul where brooding emotions, deep longing, an insatiable desire for beauty, startling images from the dreamtime and the wild energies of duende darken us into creatures of the earth. Without our descent into this terrain of psyche, we remain caught in a one-dimensional life, lacking the richness and textures that are found in this sacred ground.

Our deepest work isn’t about improvement or making ourselves better. Our work is to cultivate a vital relationship with life; to open our arms wide and become permeable to the rhythms and wildness that surrounds us and arises within us. This act of self-compassion makes us a circle of inclusion. By welcoming all of who we are, the strengths and wounds, the beauty and sorrows, we step into a wider appreciation of life and a greater capacity for participation: We come more fully alive.

We didn’t come here to be perfect. Perfectionism is oppressive, stifling our every breath. We came to encounter the entire wild tapestry of life. The great stories of all cultures tell us we are actually shaggy bears of desire, cavorting wolverines of soul digging in the soil, turning over stones looking for a taste of the sacred. And they are there every day; little morsels of the divine arriving in the touch of a friend, the blazing maples of autumn, times of shared vulnerability, and those delicious times celebrating the gifts we receive in our daily lives.

Life is rambunctious and difficult. Rather than spend our lifetime trying to get it right, our souls want to feel the entire range of life that we are designed to know. By welcoming the holiness that dwells in the depths, we step into the widest arc of life and feel ourselves entering the thicket of longing, looking for a glimpse of the wild soul.
Let me know what you think about trying to be perfect…

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Francis Weller

Francis Weller is a master of synthesizing diverse streams of thought from psychology, anthropology, mythology, alchemy, indigenous cultures and poetic traditions. Author of Entering the Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and the Soul of the World, he has introduced the healing work of ritual to thousands of people. Entering the Healing Ground: Grief, Ritual and the Soul of the World

What is Conscious Living?

Today’s post is an excerpt from my upcoming book “Fully Conscious Living”.

Fully conscious living is first and foremost choosing a way of life that starts by being aware, awake and responsible for our thoughts, beliefs, projections and lifestyle choices. It is becoming aware of what is occurring both externally and internally in our body and mind.

Deep, conscious living involves all forms of life choices, including:

  • Choosing to awaken and become aware of your thoughts, emotions, and unconscious aspects in your life that have blocked you from feeling fully alive.
  • Recognizing what is not in alignment with your highest and best self, and taking responsibility to release it from your life.
  • Learning to resist nothing by looking it “straight in the eyes,” blessing it and being grateful for it.
  • Remaining in integrity and honoring your soul’s authentic purpose for your life.
  • Learning how to reset your thoughts to move you quickly into a higher vibration.
  • Choosing healthy foods that nourish your brain, body and soul.
  • Aligning your heart with your brain to manage anxiety, stress and depression.
  • Getting crystal clear on how to manifest your passion, life purpose and destiny.
  • Understanding how to use the laws of manifestation to create what you want and avoid what you don’t.
  • Engaging others with gratitude, forgiveness, selfless service and self-love to profoundly shift your life.
  • Connecting with and shifting your relationship with the Earth as its caretaker.

Choosing to live a conscious lifestyle is the key to living a fully engaged life in all areas -relationships, career, health, spirituality, well-being, environment, and service.

How are you choosing to become more conscious? Let me know by commenting below or emailing me at jjdillon@mindspring.com.

5 Steps to Get Unstuck and Make a Change

5 Steps to Get Unstuck and Make a ChangeIt has been a hard year for a lot of us as we experience loss, grief, health issues and radical change, both personally and globally. Although you may not be able to make all the changes you want now, you can start to mentally and emotionally make changes for how you want your life to be.

It’s time to get unstuck and make a change! Do you know what changes you need to make? If you are like a lot of us, there is at least one area where you feel stagnant, blocked, or at a loss.

Should you try to breathe life back into a tired relationship–or say enough and stop throwing good years away? Have you had it with your ho-hum job that is leading you nowhere? Do you need to take better care of your body in a healthy way but don’t know where to start?

Are you yearning for change?
It is a time for deep introspection, and for exploring how you want to live this part of your life and how you want to become more authentically who you are.Yoga man

  • Step One: Schedule a quiet time to think about some of the questions you need to ask yourself to make change.

Do I want to spend the rest of my working life in my present career? What changes can I begin to make now to ensure better physical and psychological health for the rest of my life? Which relationships do I want to keep and which do I let go? Am I really happy and content with my daily life now?

  • Step Two: Get clear about what you want for your life.

Develop a personal profile that highlights several areas: Your passions, your dream job or career, your wish for where you want to live, and your overall health and wellness. Give yourself permission to get in touch with your suppressed vision of who you truly are and how you want your life to actually be.

  • Step Three: Identify obstacles and outdated beliefs.

Do you have limiting thoughts that are holding you back?

Your set of beliefs, thoughts and lifestyle habits, which include your food choices, your form of exercise, your sleep patterns and stress level, can be an obstacle for living a healthy lifestyle. What are your thoughts and limiting behaviors? It is essential that you learn how to recognize your unproductive thoughts, and how the thoughts make you feel. If you feel good you know you are in a positive or higher vibration.

  • Step Four: Take action to make permanent change.

It is not enough to just verbalize or visualize your goals. You must have a plan and take steps to create what you want!

Action Steps: Write down your goals and action steps to achieve them during the next 3 months. Identify your strengths and areas for improvement and following up with your plan.

  • Step Five: Get help to hold yourself accountable.

To help you manifest your goals and dreams, I recommend that you create accountability by finding a buddy, hiring a coach, or joining a mastermind group with like-minded people to help you reach your goals.

We are all coping in these turbulent times. It’s not abnormal or unusual to sometimes face the lesson or challenge, or to sometimes be in the dark either unaware or stuck. Relief is palpable when we discover that it’s okay to be where you are. Breathe, let go!

Miraculous Magnificence

“The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are. ” —Joseph Campbell

Miraculous MagnificenceToday’s message is to celebrate the magnificence of your radiant, joyful spirit. If you could see your body as a physicist can see it, you would observe atoms or particles moving at lightning speed around vast, empty spaces. These particles aren’t material objects at all. They are fluctuations of energy and information in a huge empty space. And what is this space? It is the womb of creation, the field of all possibilities. It is the same place that nature goes to fashion a galaxy and to fashion a thought.

This field of pure potentiality is within you. It is your inner space that gives rise with amazing fertility to all of the divine qualities of the universe, including love, grace, abundance, joy, creativity, and freedom. You are a unique expression of everything in existence, and you shine with the beauty of a million stars.

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India’s ancient Vedic tradition

There is a beautiful saying in India’s ancient Vedic tradition:

“If you want to recreate the world, look at it with fresh eyes.”

Today have the intention to see one thing as if for the first time. Look without the camouflage of your memories. Sometimes the hardest thing is to truly see someone we have known for a long time, such as our partner, child, or friend. We assume we know who they are, and so we stop seeing. It is also important to look at yourself as though doing so for the first time. We may assume that we know ourselves, but as we are discovering, who we are is much more than our limited ego-mind can envision.

Through the eyes of your true self, take a few moments to consider how truly magnificent you really are.

Oprah and Deepak: 21 Day Meditation Challenge

How to Become Open and Willing to Change

The Greek goddess of crossroads and the mystical underworld Hecate reminds us of the importance of change which helps us to release the past, especially those things that are hindering our growth, and to accept change and transitions.

A friend of mine recently met Hecate. My friend grew up in a family whose father’s career demanded relocation with each promotion, so at an early age, she accepted that change would be a constant factor in her life and learned how to adapt. Now in mid-life, she is no longer as comfortable with change, particularly in terms of how it has affected her career. More than two years of diligent job-seeking has netted her nothing more than frustration and disappointment because she has been unconsciously unwillingly to accept the new employment landscape. Essentially, my friend was clenching a part of her past that was no longer supporting her. Her focus was blurring as she was losing sight of her life’s purpose and now feels completely lost.

Know anyone in your life who might be experiencing this as well?

Finally, my friend took a leap of faith. She consciously decided she had to change something in herself in order to free herself of her negative energy that seemed to be working against her. She unclenched her fists and made the brave decision to simply “let go and go with the flow;” to relax, give up the pounding fight and allow herself to be open to change. With my coaching, she was empowered to make this powerful evolutionary, conscious shift.

Because she decided to stop struggling, release her grip on her past beliefs as to what her career should look like now, and instead, make herself available to receive what the universe is attempting to deliver, she reports feeling a sense of peace for the first time in years.

Not surprisingly, within a matter of three weeks, the universe has presented her with three employment opportunities to consider!

We are all in the process of experiencing evolutionary shifts which can sometimes create life challenges which may force us to slow down and experience our precious life more fully.

To make change, you must be willing to be open to change even if you are not ready for it. Also, you must be honest with yourself in order to understand the truth which the lesson is trying to awaken you to experience.

Have you been putting off making a choice because it seems too overwhelming or a “no win” situation? Does the choice create fear of the unknown? Does it seem better and/or easier to remain with what you know?

Hecate meets you at the crossroads when you must make a change.

Here’s how to make that transition easier:

  • If you are not ready to make that leap, simply acknowledge that and let go.
  • Trust that you will be able to make a choice when the time is right.
  • Don’t push yourself or blame yourself.
  • Release your desire to know the answer or the outcome.
  • Sit quietly, close your eyes, relax and allow clarity to reveal itself.

Write to me to share your “meeting with Hecate” so that others can benefit from your experience as well!

Why A Women’s Retreat is the Ultimate Getaway!

This year is half over already – perhaps it’s time to stop a moment and assess where you are in the course of your life. If you’re making plans to take some time off this summer, consider taking an all-women’s retreat, rather than a vacation. Why?

For many of us in our busy life, a retreat is not a luxury, yet it is still a special event. Just like our monthly massages, semi-annual dental check-ups, and our annual mammogram, a retreat is an essential part of our self-care routine for which we need to make time at least once a year.

Like a regular vacation, a retreat can offer lots of fun activities balanced with quiet relaxation, but most of us aren’t there just to soak up some rays and play. We attend a retreat so we can work on ourselves, so we can get quiet and go deep into our soul to perhaps uncover something long lost, or to bring forth something new, more relevant or more meaningful in our lives. Many of us want to find our life’s true purpose, and we’re willing to share this enlightening experience with other women who are also self-examining.

Why We Need All-Women Retreats

So many of us women must deal with a multitude of emotions and challenges in our overwhelmingly busy lives. We often feel selfish and guilty about taking a few days off from our demanding job or business, or taking time away from our family in order to quietly spend it just reconnecting with ourselves and other women. In fact, we’re often guilty of “busy-ness,” of doing too much especially for others, and that’s actually one of the main compelling reasons we need retreats. We’re challenged to leave behind our long “must-do” lists, yet we must get away from our demanding environments so that we have no choice except to relax and just “be.”

Whether we’re meditating in solitude or sharing openly, the nurturing support of other women can help us explore questions of “who am I, really, and how do I want my life to be?” As a result of that self-inquiry, we can often pool our feminine energy to help each other make the necessary changes.

Therefore, a women’s retreat can lead to something new and truly wonderful in our lives, including a healthier lifestyle. Retreating, especially with all women, gives us the freedom to reach inward and more deeply than ever before; it empowers us to heal ourselves, to question our path, to re-examine and redesign our lives, and expand our bodies, minds, hearts, and spirits. The safe, nurturing, and often lush and natural environment enables us to embrace our feminine energy along with Mother Nature, the epitome of our essence.

Whether you choose a week-long empowerment event with a variety of adventurous, confidence-building activities, a three-day getaway to focus on health, yoga and breathing exercises, or just a one-day retreat to designed to teach meditation, a retreat gives you permission to just “be” and not have to “do.” You can have fun, be adventurous, be creative, be focused on your health, or just be silent. No matter the retreat’s format, you are sure to come away changed through experiencing a different place, time, culture, lifestyle and perspective.

Check out our women’s empowerment retreat coming up in San José del Cabo, México.