3 Ways to Stop Sabotaging Your Success

Stop Sabotaging Your Success

Let’s assume that you’ve identified your true purpose in life and you’re on your way to actualizing it. And then you fall off track. You realize that you have started to sabotage reaching your goals.

Perhaps you’re not keeping up with writing your blog. Perhaps you’re procrastinating on starting an important new project. Maybe you’re not getting regular exercise or losing those extra 20 pounds. Or you’re becoming stressed out or feeling guilty about time away from family. Why?

Here are a few ways to get motivated to get back on track.

Believe You Will Succeed
Many of us lack the confidence we need to pursue our dreams. We tend to doubt ourselves. We can be so afraid of failing that we unconsciously sabotage our success. We all fail at something, but failure is the best way in the world to learn to develop stamina and resilience. Louise Hay, motivational author, says to tell yourself every morning, “I am successful, I am confident, I am supported by people who desire to work with me.”

Surround Yourself with Successful People
It is important to surround yourself with positive thinking people—friends and co-workers who are emotionally and spiritually grounded and making a difference in the world. People who support your dreams and help you find ways to manifest your business or career. Your dreams are fragile. Be careful who you share you deepest desires with.

Align Your Thoughts with Your Goals
Our thoughts and feelings are alive. They are energy, just like everything else in the world. If you are having a hard time manifesting what you deeply desire for your life, it could be because you are struck in an old belief about yourself.

Changing this belief is a critical step in learning to align your thoughts with your life vision or goals. If you want to be successful in your business or in any area of your life you must be aware of your emotions and thoughts. Write down your goals and see them as already happening.

How Can We Avoid Self-sabotage?

Cultivating mindful awareness of our behavior is key to avoiding the pitfalls of self-sabotage. The steps involved are the same as those I teach in my coaching on finding one’s true purpose:

  • Meditate and reflect. Get quiet and connect to the present moment. Acknowledge the critical inner voice whispering in your ear, telling you that you can’t succeed.
  • Sit with a journal or piece of paper. Ask yourself: “What did I do/not do to defeat my progress towards my goal?
  • Pay attention! Over time, the deep reasons behind your self-doubt will be revealed. The truth might at first make you anxious because it means challenging deeply engrained, old and familiar attitudes that we’ve long held about ourselves.

Change Can Be Hard – Don’t Tough it Out Alone

Exploring old, unproductive, limiting thought patterns and changing them can be difficult. And our tendency to back-slide on the best of intentions is pernicious. I can help you take control by helping you develop a Life Purpose Action Plan to move you forward faster. Once you identify and process the root cause of your fear, and learn how to manage it, the self-sabotaging behavior will stop.

 

Why Is It So Important To Discover Your Purpose?

“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements” ~ Napoleon Hill

We are all born with a life purpose, unique gifts and talents. Most of us never question our purpose.

We don’t spend the time to go deeper into our inner self to ask the questions that will start to reveal the answers to: Why am I here? What is my deeper work in the world? How do I lead and serve other people?

Our purpose is the reason we are alive. It is not our job, a role, a title, or our company.

Purpose is a deeper knowing inside of us that encourages us to answer that most important question who we are, why we are here and what are we here to do.

It is a source of deep vitality and vision. It is the rocket fuel that will get you up every day and keep you focused on your true north path.

According to Harvard Business Review, there is an explosion of interest from small business owners and leaders in corporations pursing their purpose.

Why is purpose important for your personal development and for your business vision?

Doctors have found that people who have a purpose are less prone to disease. Psychologists describe it as the pathway to well-being. Business experts say it is the key to exceptional performance.

Whether you are an entrepreneur with a startup or the CEO of a major Fortune 500 company, a nurse practitioner, a manager of a spa, an organic farmer, a professor of nursing, or a soft wear developer you will benefit from having clarity about your purpose and or business vision for your life.

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It is the very essence of what will guide you through the extremely turbulent time in the world today and it will help anchor you in the up and down times in your personal life that include health, relationship, financial and spiritual crisis.

It will help you stay focused on your dream for your business, why you started your business and what you want to bring into the world. If you have no purpose you can quickly become burned-out, disillusioned, and unable to stay focus on sustaining your goals.

Without a purpose you may make money but you will not stay around long without an authentic, valuable product or service that improves the quality of other’s lives.

I have found that the critical factor for my life and for my client’s success is to have a purposeful vision that is guided by your highest calling.

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Seven Proven Stress – Busters That Work

Stress builds up throughout the day. However, there are many ways to slow down or interrupt the mind’s programmed response to stress. Any activity that allows you to relax and refocus your awareness instead of reacting to the situation will ultimately give you some recovery time.

Take 5-10 minutes to practice a stress-buster relief technique, so you can relieve pent-up anxiety and experience amazing beneficial outcomes. Many of these techniques can be done when tension strikes at your desk, in a meeting, in your car, at lunch, in the bank or sitting in the airport. So take a deep breath… and begin!

 

Is your Life Trying to Get Your Attention to Live More on Purpose?

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Stress and burnout are common terms we hear and use today. But what are those feelings really trying to tell us?

Is something out of kilter or do you find less joy and meaning in your job or business? Are you just going through the motions of something that once excited and motivated you?

From my own personal experiences and those of my clients, it was a feeling often equated to stress or burnout that turned out to be a wake-up call from inside that we were off-course in our life purpose.

Many people decide on a career path when they are young – in high school or college – or have it thrust upon them by their parents’ desire to see their child prosper in their adult life. Or they may have started a business with much enthusiasm and energy.

Then years later, they begin to feel disenchanted with the career choice or find their business is not giving them the satisfaction it once did.

This is a very uncomfortable and difficult place to be in. After all, there was much effort and expense getting to where you are today. And it is hard to think of abandoning or giving up on something you once wanted or seem destined to achieve.

But, this is one of many course corrections to be made in life.

If you are feeling disengaged or burned out, it is a sign to get back in touch with your true self.

So how does a professional, business owner, or entrepreneur figure out what is next on their journey?

I have found that the answers are inside each person if they are willing to give themselves the time and quiet to find their true self.

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For business or professional people, to help make the time and quiet for clarity and then take action towards your life purpose, a coach with experience in both life purpose and business can make it easier to reach the point where you are living in the moment and enjoying your vocation and your life more fully.

For business people, the steps needed may mean a major career change, a rebranding or a reinvention. Or it may mean starting a new business or expanding your current business.

In any case, having someone coach, or mentor you and hold you accountable to yourself in prioritizing and acting on the steps needed to succeed is critical.

So if you are feeling stuck or out of kilter with yourself and your career or business, you may be feeling stress or burnout. And this may be your inner self struggling to clue you in on needed changes. Visit http://joycedillon.com/life-and-passion-quiz for a quiz about your life and passion.

It may be the easiest step you take to get motivated, excited and satisfied with your life again.

Is the Life or Business You Are Living The Life You Desire?

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As I travel to engage in conferences or coach entrepreneurs, teach life purpose classes or facilitate painting retreats, people consistently ask me the same question: “Joyce, how do I discover my purpose in life?”

Right now, millions of people are experiencing a yearning and desire to awaken to their unique gifts and talents, offer them in service to the world, and to enjoy a life of abundance and fulfillment as a result.

So why is living a life of meaning and purpose so elusive? It is because our current social system does not support us to live “on purpose” but rather to live “in survival mode.”

This is why many people feel trapped in a dull, daily routine which drains their life energy. They may also be plagued by stress, and wracked with anxiety and fear. Others are frantically “chasing the buck” and/or consumed with their lust for power and possessions.

However, many others may already enjoy freedom, the fruit of their prosperity generated from their business, but even such freedom does not quench their thirst for true and rich meaning in their life.

One of life’s great fulfillments is achieving true inner and outer purpose.

As we know, it is not always easy to find and live your life purpose! While this reflection work cannot be fully accomplished during a single session or a weekend retreat, it is a great place to start this process.

So how and where do you start?

The process begins with becoming self-aware, then accepting a high level of responsibility for your life. Next, you can learn how to remove the blocks and beliefs that keep you from realizing your true potential.

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Getting Clear on a New Path

The first step is to get quiet and get connected to the present moment. You must release your concerns regarding your past and your future. Meditation and quiet reflection are essential tools you’ll use on this journey of self-discovery.

Sit with a journal or piece of paper. Ask yourself: “What is trying to come forth in my life? What is my inner purpose for my life? What is my greater calling?”

Keep meditating and asking these questions.

Pay attention! Over time, your purpose will be revealed through the type of information, events and opportunities which come into your life.

Sarah’s Search to Reveal Her Life Purpose

Sarah, a divorce attorney, consulted me to help her break through her unhappiness within her current legal career. She wanted to start a business that was in alignment with her desire to empower women to use their gifts to enjoy a more meaningful life.

We started by examining Sarah’s life for common threads and major themes. Together, we identified her core, lifelong strengths, values, and passions that energized her and brought her joy.

As a result of this work together, Sarah started a non-profit organization which empowers women around the world to build small businesses which support themselves and their families. Sarah is now enjoying a more meaningful and purposeful life!

Getting Support

Like Sarah, most people find this process challenging to do alone. That’s why I recommend you share this experience with a small group of like-minded individuals, or have a “Finding Your Life Purpose” session that I offer.

Take Action NOW!

Ready to find and live your life purpose? Then take the first step by signing up for a complimentary Find Your Life Purpose session. Together, we will take the next steps!